12.12.08

Overcoming Negative Self-Talk

Posted in Uncategorized at 1:11 pm by Jenny

Weve all been in situations where things dont go according to plan. But thats not what is important.

What is essential is the way we talk to ourselves about these situations.

Talking to ourselves negatively can make us feel awful about ourselves and make a difficult situation worse.

What if you accept the fact that you will be going late and instead of worrying about the consequences and beating yourself up over it, turn the experience into something positive?

Whats the best way to flip from negative to positive self-talk? The first step is to recognize what we are doing. Far too often, our thoughts pass through our minds without us even being aware that we are thinking them.

When we really listen to what we are telling ourselves, we will see that the negative self-talk falls into four basic categories:

Criticizing ourselves (i.e. Im horrible at such and such. My friends are much better than I.)
Giving up and saying that things are hopeless (i.e. Ill never be able to do such and such.)
Worrying about the future (i.e. What if such and such happens? Wont that be terrible?)
Concluding we should be perfect (i.e. I should be able to do such and such. If I cant, Im a complete failure.)

12.11.08

4 Traits Of Good Friend

Posted in Uncategorized at 12:50 pm by Jenny

As the saying goes, a friend in need is a friend in deed, you have good friends with whom you can share and keep your feelings alive.

Friends play an important role in your life so you have to choose your friends very carefully as they can make and break the relationship.

Some of the traits for a good friend include:

Always positive: A good friend will always think in a positive [positive thinking] way because he will never have any intensions to hurt or to betray others.
Loyal: Loyal friends will keep your feelings to themselves without sharing with others as it might have a negative impact on your friendship.
Honesty: The saying is apt for the friends who are really honest. A friend who is honest will never let you down in any aspect of your life. You are really blessed if a friend is very honest by heart.
Never expect any thing: A good friend is one who never expects anything in return for any help he does. He always has the habit of giving but not taking and also he does not expect you to change for anything. This is one of the best qualities a good friend has.

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12.09.08

The Essential Time-Saving Guide For Busy People

Posted in Uncategorized at 1:30 pm by Jenny

Your lives are always busy, but the holidays always seem to add even more craziness to everyones schedule.

Christmas parties with family, friends and co-workers, gift shopping, decorating, Christmas pageants, caroling, bell-ringing, snow shoveling (unless you live on Guam like I do), making cookies, baking turkeys, and all the rest.

Its enough to make you want to give up! But it doesnt have to be overwhelming.

If youre a busy person (and who isnt these days?), here are some time-saving tips that work wonders for freeing up the schedule.

Why use these tips? First, to keep yourself sane during busy times we all tend to stress out when schedules are packed.

But second, and just as importantly, to make time for what you think is most important. You might have other things you want to make time for. Heres how to do it.

Tips for Work

Most of us spend the most time at work, so lets start there. If you have a to-do list thats a mile long or worse yet, no to-do list at all heres what you can do.

12.08.08

6 Rules To Raise A Responsible Child

Posted in Uncategorized at 1:40 pm by Jenny

Raising a responsible child is a challenging task for a parent.

Parents have been very responsible in all the areas of child growth as the children will try to imitate their parents at every stage of life.

So, for raising a responsible child, you have to implement certain rules and regulations in your day to day life.

Let the child feel responsible for the work she is allotted. With this, the child experience how important is the task whether it is a small or a big.
Encourage the child for every small issue she raises. If the child is wrong then make her understand why the issue is not correct in a pleasing way so that the child will not get agitated.
Provide good opportunities for the children at every stage of their life so that the children will get habituated of selecting the right option amongst many.
Teach your child to be organized from childhood. It includes keeping their books in their shelves, arranging their bags etc.
Guide them in following good and healthy habits which plays safe for them all the time.
Praise the child if she achieves any targets which help her in boosting her self esteem and energy.

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12.05.08

Building Unshakable Self Confidence

Posted in Uncategorized at 2:08 pm by Jenny

The Greatest Obstacle to Success
The fear of failure is the single greatest obstacle to success in adult life.

Taken to its extreme, we become totally pre-occupied with not making a mistake, with seeking for security above all other considerations.

The experience of the fear of failure is in the words of I cant, I cant. We feel it in the front of the body, starting at the solar plexus and moving up to the rapid beating of the heart, rapid breathing and a tight throat.

We also experience this fear in the bladder and in the irresistible need to run to the bathroom.

The Fear of Rejection Holds You Back
The second major fear that interferes with performance and inhibits expression, is the fear of rejection. We learn this when our parents make their love conditional upon our behavior.

If we do what pleases them, they give us love and approval. If we do something they dont like, they withdraw their love and approval which we interpret as rejection.

The Roots of Type A Behavior
As adults, people raised with conditional love become preoccupied with the opinions of others.

Many men develop Type A behavior which is characterized by hostility, suspicion and an obsession with performance to some undetermined high standard.

This is expressed in the attitude of I have to, I have to, and is associated with the feeling that I have to work harder and accomplish more in order to please the boss who has become a surrogate parent.

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